My Life In a Nut Shell Continues

My travels in the "Women's Shelters" taught me so much about life.  Never in
my life would I have known how society has done so little. So many of these
women turned to family, churches, neighbors and friends only to be turned
away. No resources and the children.  It was so sad and I knew that since I
lived thru this that I am determined to speak up and hopefully be heard to
help women. Material items are not what counts in life but the struggle can be
challenging.  I sacrificed everything but I am a survivor.

Most of society don't understand that living with an alcoholic, physical
abuser and emotional abuser is not always easy to break away from..  when one
has children and are in the system..these men use the visitations to control
the women.  They have no conscience and don't care about the children.

I'm told by attorney's that most women who would've experienced what I did
would've ended up in a mental institute of cracked up.  It was my faith and
the family, friends,shelters and all the support along the road that
encouraged me not to give up.

Women living with an abuser so many times live in denial and are ashamed to
talk about it.  I understand very well the behaver, I chose to get a counselor
that showed me that it was not my fault, that one can't help an abuser unless
they are willing to help themselves.  My councelor informed me that if I
stayed in the relationship that in time I would be come as sick as the abuser.
I chose to leave and rise above this. Today I do not live in abuse any longer.
I start my day counting my blessings and can wear a smile on my face each and
every day.

Donna